Top 5 Things I Learned in 20 Years, and How They Could Help You Now.

Celebrating 20 years


This month is the 20th anniversary of my first client, and my coaching journey has taken many forms, from side show to main attraction, business owners to career women.  I thought I would share with you the top 5 things I learned on this journey and how that can help you…..with stories of course.


  1. I did it my way (in the end)

Yep, I listened to many gurus along the way, some still out there and some fallen by the wayside.  Some of them were heroes, some fell and some still are. What is the point of this nostalgia?  It is because the times it worked, I did it my way.

This did not mean I did not get help, coaching, mentoring etc.  It just meant I let it sit with me to make sure it was really me.  I was also careful to not let this become an excuse to stay in my comfort zone.  “I am not talking to anyone as it is not aligned” would quickly get you back into the workplace, no I mean the way I chose to talk to them is aligned.

I can remember my first networking meeting, being dragged along by someone I knew who wanted to “see me in action” as I was a selling superstar in my day job.  I felt the pressure to perform so intensely I was scared to speak to someone in case I had to shake their hand. It was awful, but I knew I had to persevere. So I chose less intense meetings and evolved my own style.  Now I connect.  I understand the difference between it means to sell and what it means to make sales.

  1. I can adapt, change and evolve…if I want to

I began as a career coach, my message being you can be your best self, in your best job.  I then added my successful day job into the mix and became a sales trainer too.

Then I added in my award-winning public speaking into the mix and became a communications coach and now whilst I still do all this my focus is back in the workplace.  Back with women, feeling unheard and stuck and in need of a change.

It is a journey that has included working with coaches and therapists increasing their sales, or working with companies to increase their performance, and presentation skills.  It has meant adapting to redundancy, relocation and restrictions of lockdown.

I love the film “Hope floats” and one of the lines in the film Sandra Bullock’s Grandmother says “you waste your opportunities and that is the worst type of extravagance” What opportunities do you waste?

  1. Its not about me……

It is not about me, whether I am speaking, coaching or marketing it is about my client….my ideal market or my support network.

I mean I must have empathy and be clear over clever and keep it simple, so I create the least work for them.  I may find a pun incredibly witty, but it is probably meaningless to everyone else. I may find it easier to cross platforms, but my clients may prefer a single click.

This will always be a challenge to me, as a creative soul, but I persevere.

  1. You get what you ask for….

Life is like a deviant genie….it listens for you to make your wishes.  You could wish by your actions, intentions and interactions.  If you are not getting the results you want, you are not asking the right way. Do something else, with someone else. Just do it….as action with intent is very powerful.

There is a story on facebook at the moment, and although it is being misused to represent a political point of view I don’t share, there is a general truth to it.

The story says cows don’t give milk.  You have to milk the cow to get the milk.  This means you have to work for your rewards. That work can be fun, or arduous, that’s up to you (which brings me to my next point nicely…) but you still have to take that action.

If you want to know if you are asking right, then check out last blog…..

  1. The battle is won or lost in your head.

It does not matter if you are the best in the world, if you do not believe you are the best, you will never perform to your potential. It is simple common sense.  In every moment there are millions of micro decisions we can take.  Blink, inhale, hold our breath, focus attention on, etc.  Some of these are beyond our intention and consciousness. They are then decided by our unconscious belief.  If we do not inhale and exhale in the right amounts, we will die.  We unconsciously believe it, we know it, so we breathe.

More complexly, we feel unclear, we procrastinate.  We feel nervous, we jiggle to distract or run away to avoid.  If we feel defeated, we do not run enthusiastically to the next challenge.

I grew up thinking I was dull, and talked too much, as I was never listened to.  I believed that meant I could not communicate well.  So when I started working, I was overshadowed by my colleagues, timid and shy.  I thought I should not speak, they thought I had nothing to say.  I changed that and a career was born.  I can and so can you…..

That is why I do what I do and why I have done it for 20 years.

To celebrate I am offering coaching coffee breaks to you….how it works is you turn up to coffee, on line of course as it is a crazy zoom world now, and I coach you for an hour.  In that hour we will identify what battles are being lost in your head and how they are holding you stuck in your career.

By the end of the coffee, you will have identified what you need to do to begin to unstick your career and fall in love with work again.

All you need to do is click this link to book your time…..



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